Short answer - not doing any of the above for someone I don't see more often than 2 to 3 times a week.

Nothing wrong with consenting adults engaging in booty calls or friends-with-benefits type relationships as long as the benefits don't include providing private chef services or 'just hanging out' type companionship.

Long answer - I have yet to get married. As much as I'd love to say that I refuse to accept bad behavior in a BF 100% of the time and that I am not a doormat or fantasy-filled ninny, I have been in the same boat (or at least a similar one) to the girlfriend of LW #1.

The way I see it, plenty of married women complain about being taken for granted, that being taken out to dinner has vanished and that hubby watches television from the moment he gets home from work until he goes to bed while she comes home and cleans up, does laundry, cooks dinner, does the dishes and satisfies him in bed.

Single women hear their married friends describe their personal lives and think that this is the norm and to be expected.

When the man is ready to have the relationship move to the stay-at-home, cook for me, eat-at-home, watch tv and wear sweats or boxers and a t-shirt all the time phase, he is bound to have his girlfriend want to know where things are going. seriously, it isn't about her passively-aggressively withholding sex or about being a high demand bitch, but where's the fun and benefit for her now that they are no longer going out on dates?

With a career, sometimes work is fun, but often it is just work. Well, dating is fun while it is taking trips, going out to dinner, concerts, movies, theatre, etc... Seldom is dating fun when it is cleaning a BF's home and cooking for him and doing his laundry. Again, I have been there. It just sort of happens. At first, there's lots of fun activities and passion and sex, then after 6 months to a year, the relationship changes. Assumptions are made. Sex becomes a given and will occur without flowers being given or dinner out, without consumption of alcohol, wearing of lingerie or make-up. In most cases, the GF will "tidy up" while at BF's house. In fairness to men, the BF will usually do work on her yard or car. Am I missing something here, where's the fun?

While I don't need a guy to make me feel whole, help me make decisions or to keep me awake half the night with loud snores, when I truly love a man, I want to spend more time with him and I want to be fully committed. It is really hard to sit through episodes of stuff I don't want to watch and to take the energy and effort to cook for someone I only see 2 to 3 times a week and with whom I don't even share a bed.

As for the LW, does his idea of maintaining the status quo with his girlfriend include accompanying her to say, visit her ailing parents or to her son's college graduation or any number of family events including holidays? How about to funerals, weddings and office parties? How much of a boyfriend is he when they go back to their own houses at night? She might as well be sleeping with a married guy for the quality and quantity of the time she gets with the LW.