Thanks for your insight. I only brought up the whole situation due to some parallels with the LW. I did try to clear the air, but she wasn't able to see my viewpoint at all.

For a little more perspective, she neither initiates nor returns phone calls either. I figured that she wasn't interested in our friendship because of this, yet she assured me not to take it personally as she is like that with everyone. Her ex-husband, her current boyfriend and her son all know and acknowledge this characteristic of hers. So, I tried not to let it bother me. A few years ago, I bought my first house. All my family and friends either called or sent a card or just an email to see how moving in was going and to wish me congratulations. They all have their own busy lives, but took a bit of time to think of me. For once, I didn't call her and decided to wait until she contacted me. 8 months went by and, during a lonely time following an accident and surgery, I finally called her. She was shocked to hear of my injuries and the resultant surgery. she said that she assumed that I was too busy with moving in and getting settled to call her. One again I asked why she didn't pick up the phone and call me and she, one again, repeated that she doesn't call anyone.

I send birthday cards and christmas cards and the occasional email. I'll call a long distance friend once or twice a year, more often if we are close. But there's reciprocity in that they contact me, too.

Anyway, thanks for letting me get this off my chest.