amntyler and anyone else who disparages the donor egg/sperm process:

Please be aware that whether you like it or not, generations of children who were conceived with donated eggs are being born and will continue to be born now that this is medically possible.

Women who conceive this way do it with a lot of thought and, usually, after a lot of suffering. They have an understanding with the egg donor that she is simply giving them the gift of a microscopic part of herself so that they can bear a child. Neither the donor nor the birth mother (or her husband) regard it as any more of a connection than that.

By disparaging this process and calling it into question, please be aware that you are creating a stigma for the children who are born from this process. They do not deserve that. They are here because their parents longed for a child. They are loved and valued so much. If they are told about it in a sensitive way, they will always feel gratitude toward the nice (usually anonymous) lady who helped out their Mom. And that's where their feelings toward her will (and should) end.

Wendy