As a military wife and mother I would like to offer advise and the names of agencies and groups that can assist you and your family. However, I have read your post several times and I am having a problem accepting some of the things you have said.

So, I'm asking ( as most of the people who read Prudie have wanted to ask others who come here for advise) that you provide a little more information.

1. you say your husband has been overseas 3 times in four years - what branch of the military is/was he in and were the three tours combat duty?

2. If it was combat duty: what happened to your allotment, your childrens allotment and his combat pay as you say you worked two jobs to support yourself and your kids. Also, Military loans for homes are available at low interest rates with no or low downpayments

3.You go on to imply that he is a recruiter/ works at the recruiting station: They don't normally deploy. And after just four years in any branch it is almost impossible to get a recruiters assignment if he was an enlistee.

4.Are you divorced? If not you can still contact his CO or your FRG to get the help that you need. Do you know what an FRG is?

5. If you are divorced and he is still active military your children are still military dependents and are entitled to his benefits.

6. I'm having a problem accepting that the police would break into HIS home on your say so, especially if you are divorced,unless you live in a very small town where everyone knows both of you.

7. What police would leave a drunk , possibly drug overdosed,unresponsive person in some ones care with the instructions that you posted. They would be letting themselves and their city in for one hell of a lawsuit if the person died or ended up in a coma

6.How could you work 15 hrs a day/ seven days a week with a child as sick as you describe.?

So, if you would, please take a few minutes to provide a little more information. Because , if your story is true there are many wise and compassionate people here on the Fray who have and will offer you good advise and their hearts will break for you, as others who responded before me already have. But if this is a made up post, they don't deserve to be hoodwinked . ( theres' a good old fashioned word.) And our men and women in the military deserve better than to have made-up stories posted on the internet that cast a shadow on their re-intergration into society.

If I am wrong I will apologize,But, for now I cry Bullshit