she did what she did, of course, but i also feel she handled it wrong by not telling her child his connection to these people until he was in college. clearly, LW is trying to get over it, otherwise he wouldn't have written in asking how to do so. why everyone is being so hard on this person, i have no idea. for all we know, he had a childhood crush on one of these triplets, and is having issues stemming from that, but doesn't want to say so in the letter.