Amen. Her answer was infuriating. I have a boyfriend and know when not to bring him around. I have had so many friends over the years who never had five minutes for me once they were dating someone or who were incapable of going out somewhere without their boyfriend "mysteriously" showing up. The birthdays are one thing, but who assumes their boyfriend is invited to a movie? Anyway, Prudie is WAY off base with this one. Video letter writer, if you want to have some close friends to stand up for you when your relationship actually does lead to marriage, I'd remember to work on the friendships in addition to your relationships! And seriously, everyone gets a pass when they meet someone -- there's that whirlwind of hormones and giddiness and love and warm fuzzies -- but when you come back down, and you will, make some time to get coffee or drinks with the ladies. They're the ones who will be there on those long nights after one of your Mr. Maybes says goodbye.

And by the by, just because your friend's "not dating" doesn't mean she doesn't want to -- everyone has dry spells. Sometimes long ones.