And that was very well said, Razia. I think it was just a bit of a shock to the LW. He also did say one side of him loved his mother more for her selfless act. The jealousy thing is a little hard to understand because it seems obvious his mother does not consider these other children to be hers. I wonder how much he and his mother discussed it and if the insecure feelings were addressed?

Here is what the LW's mom did wrong-she shouldn't have gone on to tell him who the other children were. No, an egg or sperm does not a parent make, I agree. Still, I just think I would feel a little weirded out to know I had played with these kids as a child. Mom could have just said what she had done-maybe even thrown in that she knew a couple was successful if she wanted to-but not shared the identity.

I see absolutely nothing wrong with being a sperm or egg donor, but remaining anonymous seems like the best idea.

In this case, if the two sets of parents felt comfortable about the donation, then fine. I just don't feel like all of the details should be shared with any of the children. It is TMI as illustrated by this letter.