"killing the babies"

There's your problem. Rational people realize that abortion is not actually baby-killing.

A fetus in its 10th week of development (12 weeks gestation) - and the vast majority of elective abortions occur at or before this time - is not a tiny infant. It's pretty much a tadpole. I just can't get worked up about the fate of a tadpole. I would have been devastated to lose my own tadpole at that time - since I fully anticipated its development into my own real baby - but the prospect of someone else deciding to kill their tadpole? Not a tragedy. Sad, of course, if they'd really like to keep their tadpole but can't afford to - but not like stealing into the nursery and smothering an infant.

It's your prerogative to take the unscientific and overly sentimental view that every chemical pregnancy lost, every tadpoley fetus that stops growing or is evicted from its uterine quarters is an "angel baby waiting for you in heaven", but do please refrain from attempting to force me or anyone else to act in line with such nonsense.