"some men don't deserve custody of a child"

This suggests some do, even if you had a lousy experience, and women have so much to bear during pregnancy (pun recognized).

So, bottom line -- you disagree that there remains stereotypes in family law, reflections of society, stereotypes that probably leads to "some" men being treated unfairly? Or, maybe think women suffer so much more, so it's not really worth men whining about it.

I think andkathleen's post suggests a bit more nuance is required. Telling men who have had bad experiences to "tough it up, and chose better at the altar" (neat trick for many people) really rubs me the wrong way, even if I think there is a bit too much shouting by the guys here.

-j