My point is that doing nice things for your partner without being asked and keeping yourself (as much as possible) attractive and alluring to him/her ARE obligations, or should be. They certainly shouldn't be boring or demeaning!

I think that when being good in bed becomes a chore, and looking sexy leads to sex which is a chore, and cooking is a chore, cleaning up is a chore, and doing favours is a chore, that is simply a sign of an unhappy relationship. Nothing to do with feminism.

Freki

PS while I do most of the cleaning, he picks up the foeces-related jobs (catbox, snake tank, doggie duty, scrub toilet) so I feel it is fair.