Quietwife wrote: "I frankly don't understand your interest in demonizing the mother based on the fact she dosen't want to dredge up ancient history.

"She pretty much told me that I should have gotten over it by now, as she did."

If my mother was good with this-I would be good with this."

She's good with what? Continuing to dismiss her misuse of her child? Of course she is, she didn't acknowledge her brutality and lack of nurturing then and she's not changing her ways now. This has nothing to do with the mother's having forgiven the father for adultery. The issue here is Mommie Dearest's never having done ANYTHING to help her child cope with an emotional dilemma SHE herself created.