Messy,

Everyone survives or doesn't survive their abuse differently. How dare YOU think everyone should survive YOUR way.

In my comparison earlier why does one soldier end up with PTSD and another not, given that they both saw the same atrocities? Can or will you answer that, I doubt it.

It takes a HUGE ego to think like you. People are individuals not clones. Abuse is similar to the Kubler-Ross classic, On Death and Dying ( meaning an emotional death) everyone goes through the various stages. Right now the LW is in "anger", it's very hard to get to acceptance without stepping in the anger first.