And let me tell you, it is tough to be drug into your parents issues. And for years Mom used it to keep me on her side instead of letting it go when they decided to stay together. And then my husband entered the picture, and as an outsider he noticed that Mom and I would gang up on Dad, and that it was ultimately affecting my relationship with my father.

Truthfully there is too much crap to go into here, but having lived that experience, all I can say is that Prudie missed the mark, and that this girl is totally entitled to feel like the weight of the world got unfairly dumped on her head. And it is understandable that the LW still has issues about this. (I still worry that my parents issues are going to haunt my relationship with my husband.) But all she can do at this point is let it go. Because the mother will never admit to any wrong doing. For some reason being cheated on seems to give women the idea that they are allowed to play the victim forever and ever. And I'm sorry ladies, but it just isn't so. You lose your right to play that card the minute you let your husband back in the house and choose to continue a life with him...