I think the girl is nutso..

It is a she, I think. I guess it could be a gay man, but the lover is definitely a he. In any case the LW needs to get a grip.

The boyfriend DOES make an effort: she says he is happy to hold her or be held when they get into bed, he just wants to unwind to go to sleep. That sounds like he is being reasonable and trying to compromise. She responded by going on a crying jag because he wasn't compromising his comfort to fulfill some romantic ideal she has.

I like to cuddle, and so does my man, but sometimes (especially during the summer) skin sticks to skin just like it does to a naugahyde couch, so we separate. It is just too uncomfortable.

She should buck up and be happy with cuddling on the couch and in the bed before sleep, or leave this poor shmoe so he can date someone who isn't a whiny octopus.

Freki