It was clearly difficult for this woman to disengage from others' opinions, particularly those close to her. The fact that she lived a lie for so long (and probably hurt two men) indicates she needs to gain personal strength and self-esteem. It wil take her time. However, I agree with Prudie that, as an adult, she really should work on standing up to her parents and setting her own ground rules If they are are willing to reject her, it will be painful, but it will not be her fault. I have to agree that if I was her SO, I would be angry and hurt. If she is happy with this woman, she needs to come to terms with living life as an adult. Otherwise, she wil lead a loveless life.