Very distrustful of men who already have it together? How so?

I think every woman wants to be in control of her marriage. I guess when the guy can take care of himself, they fear that he could leave at any time, because he doesn't need her to take care of him. So I guess they'd rather marry a guy who can't cook, clean, or do his own laundry, and complain about the fact that he doesn't cook, clean, or do his own laundry, than marry a guy who can do all of those things because that guy could leave since he doesn't have to go back and live with his mother.