Cnebbe and Wassabi-

I am very stricken to hear how horrible your experiences have been for you. As a woman in my early 20's, my mother taught me that I need to be independent, have my own life... but have equal respect for the life of the man I choose to be with. That these women would knock out your support systems... You shoud friends, hobbies, aside from her, at the very least families to talk to, if you are not a social butterfly. She should be encouraging and cultivating you as an individual, cherishing you-and berating you only when you deserve it (gaming in excessive of 3 hours a day might need a little dress down, for instance, just as if she spent too much money or time on any of her hobbies.)

I suppose my advice comes too late, but never marry a woman who does not trust you to be an individual. And if I may say as an armchair psychologist, both of you get yourself to therapists. There is no reason you should be finding yourselves in 2nd, or 3rd, marriages with someone who does not respect you.