buggie:

I've always believed in letting things happen organically. If I happen to meet someone and have kids, fine. If I don't, fine too. I think it's all the FORCING of these things that leads to the all problems.

So you shouldn't plan when you want to have kids? A female college grad has about 14 years of fertile time, and then about 6-8 years of serious difficulties. Somewhere in there is probably a career. It's like deciding when to write your term paper based on your schedule, except on a far, far grander scale. I mean, planning stuff is planning stuff.

Buggie, it's not a bad rule of thumb to avoid husband-seeking when 23 for the sake of children. But if a woman really wants rugrats of her own at 38 and hasn't enough prospects for raising them by herself, I suppose she has two halfway prudent options: don't get married and don't have kids, or try her damnedest to find Mr. Right before her childbearing years are over. Moral of the story: a rough outline of your life doesn't hurt.

Julio, I hate to make too uneducated a guess, but your family is probably trying to get you two hitched either because they want kids or because they're uncomfortable with the premarital sex you're probably having.