"That's just it, people ARE saying it's one or the other. he can't be a man because only women get pregnant. Therefore he must be a woman. It's this stubborn conflation of female with woman and man with male that supports this argument. Even yours. "

You are half right...I said he isn't a man if he is pregnant. I have no problem with his gender identity, as evidenced by my use of "his" and "him". Hell, if he wanted to be referred to as "shim" or "Bongo" I wouldn't care.

However, as you pointed out, there is sex and there is gender. Biologically, he is female, as evidenced by that infant he just popped out. Gender-wise, I would be more than happy to say he is a man, except that he is publicly displaying the ways in which his gender and sex differ.

I would be fine with saying he is currently ambiguous, or that he is still transitioning, or that he is happy in a third gender but prefers the gendered pronoun "he".

Freki