Are you suggesting that a half dozen vicious posts are really just an unwillingness to allow the OP to accept helplessness as a dead end? Why not just say that, then, as you have, Tonto, without the vitriol? Why use someone who has established themselves as deeply troubled as a punching bag?

Plenty of real suggestions have been made here by people that I think you underestimate. While I agree that there is practically zero chance anything discussed here will be of practical affect the ugly tone is notable. Even you, kind Tonto, as an apologist can't wipe it away.