MessyONE:

1. Just how are women SUPPOSED to "behave" exactly? This is with regards to men in general - boyfriends, spouses, affianced, one night stands...etc. 2. How are we supposed to DRESS? Beware guys, this one is just fraught with all sorts of nasty pitfalls for you! 3. Just how far are we supposed to go to keep men happy? What do we give up? Are those open-ended enough? I can think of a good half dozen posters that won't even be able to respond.....

I don't have too much to say, since I am only 25. But I think when it comes to men I like to be myself, which is why I was always the girl who is their friend but never a girlfriend.

I am actually married to a wonderful guy and one of the only arguements that I can really remember is why he would go out and drink sometimes with his friends but why he never wanted to go drinking with me. He told me that he wasn't always himself when he would go out and he preferred to be home with me and that is because he can be himself and he knew I am not a drinker so he didn't want to make me do something I didn't really want anyway. (That kind of came out wrong and people are going to accuse me of not letting him go out and have fun but that wasn't where I was going with that. It is more that I thought he liked going out to bars and drinking and why he didn't want to do something I thought he liked with me)

As for dressing I don't think it is so much age, as it is size. I am a 34 D, I can't wear most tank tops or low cut things, it can verge on innapropriate and I prefered not to get stared at walking down the street. So due to my size I guess I tend to be more modest. I would also be willing to dress more sexy in the bedroom but my husband can be dense and I think only prefers skin.

Keeping men happy, that is a tricky one. I think I went pretty far out of my own comfort zone to keep him happy. I moved away from my beloved NYC to WI... but I found ways to be happy here. If something will make me uphappy and not just I want pizza and he wants chinese but really truely miserable then I would have to draw the line. Luckily that hasn't happened yet.

Honestly, he makes me happy, which is why I am having such a hard time now that he is away for two months. Not in that he is my everything, I can't do anything without him but I am naturally introverted and so is he so either we keep each other company or motivate each other to do things, like go out and call friends or just walk around the mall. So since he is gone I am practicing baking to keep people at work happy...