Some important points for those of you who oppose gay marriage:

1) This is not about religion. California's decision to permit gay marriages does not mean gay people are getting married in your church. Your church has every right to continue to prohibit gays from getting married. This is about the government granting gay couples rights such as being able to file taxes together and make decisions for each other if one spouse falls ill. No one is trying to change what you believe. The government has just extended rights to a new group of people.

2) Some people think the California decision was rendered by "activist judges," or judges that re-write the law or judges who go against the will of the people. In 1954, many people in Kansas accused judges of thwarting the will of the people and re-writing the law by ending school segregation and insisting that black children be taught in the same schools as white children. Many people of that time looked upon those judges as "activist judges." I believe that no ones civil rights should be determined by a popular vote.

3) All of our civil rights milestones (blacks/ whites allowed to marry, women voting, blacks voting, slavery abolished) were seen by some people as religious blasphemy. Some people were certain the moral fiber of our nation was falling apart. But it wasn't. And gay marriage won't hurt the nation or children or religion or the government. This is simply evolution and it's hard for some because it's different and unfamiliar. But let's let history be our guide. Allowing gays to marry is simply the right thing to do.