Its about time that someone brings attention to an annoying matter of sexual decorum, or conflicting sexual norms, found in most gyms across America: people sending mixed signals.

*There's the guy who stares at you no matter where you go, even if behind him. If he was focussing on his work out, then why did he turn around to stare at you? No he didn't follow you into the locker room.

*There's the young woman with a hot bod wearing all spandex so every curve is visible to the glancing or glaring eye. Should you really be jumping up and down wearing that? Good God.

*There's the jealous guy. For some reason he has to show you up in some fashion. He might do 2 pull ups on the smith machine you're using. His girlfriend may have watched you lift weights, but his action hanging from the Smith machine while you break for 1 minute seems more like a dog pissing on a bush, you know, territory marking. Dude. Dude.

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The first guy must have some bug, or likes to watch men. But why doesn't he just proposition you so you can reject him and go on with your life? What's with the glaring? I like the Adam Sandler trailer as an appropriate response where the guy asks if he's bionic and he responds: I only like the girls, but thanks anyway.

As for the young woman in all spandex, with your lady lumps and jiggling going on, expect attention. You could take a lesson from most men's and older women's attire: baggy shorts and baggy shirt usually mean "i'm just here to work out". You can still wear the spandex underneath and that gives you the same support. If you only wear spandex, then you are asking for people to look at your body. Its actually silly to think you can be virtually naked and not at least attract stares, if not propositions. Did you know most boys and young men watched those 1980s attractive aerobic instructor TV program in 360 degree camera angle just because they could?

And the jealous guy marking his territory because his girlfriend has a wandering eye: what can you say. Perhaps someone has to do more bonding at home. Or take of things BEFORE you go to the gym.