I am friends with 2 brothers, a year apart. They are, as many brothers are, very similar in some aspects, and quite different in others. As a result in the closeness of age, they were often in competition with each other.

The younger brother had a grade school video of his older brother lip synching to a pop act, in full costume, and with lots of youthful enthasium. It was for a school project, and while mildly embarassing, certainly not to the level that the younger brother thought it was. Again - it was when the older brother was in 3rd or 4th grade. Anytime anyone new would hang around, the younger brother would use it as an excuse to show the tape again, and I didn't know either of these kids until after I had finished college...

Sometime later, it was the older brother's wedding day. The younger brother decided that the wedding was the prefect place to attempt to embarass his older brother and apparently paid the DJ to have the song from the tape queued up and ready to play. The younger brother also did a wedding toast that wasn't very good, but was at least, short. Anyways - the drinking/dancing portion of the wedding started, and the younger brother took the microphone and made a big to-do about the song and dance - as in - The groom wants to do a dance for everyone on his wedding day! Hit the music!"

I thought it was a well crafted prank, but moreso, I thought it was pretty uncool considering the circumstance. Many people, I think, would have declined, and some may have been so upset at their brother's behavior, it could have ruined their evening. The groom in this case did not. He, in fact, danced to the song. And danced very well to it - to the point where the prank had to be considered a total failure. The groom really owned the moment. Instead of looking foolish, the groom ended up looking cool. If anything, the younger brother looked foolish to those who knew the whole story of the dance.

This has not much to do with the letter - but really - these situations are only as embarassing/humiliation as we let them be. Even if you can't dance - if you attempt to with a smile on your face - everyone is going to smile and cheer with you. The less seriously you take it, the better off you're going to be.