Sadly, I believe it is true that men's sexual needs are subordinate to women's emotional needs (generally speaking.)

However, I think it's a lot easier to have emotional intimacy than physical intimacy. After all, you don't usually start a conversation with the express purpose of emotional intimacy. It happens naturally, thanks to years of communication.

Sex, on the other hand, must be initiated, by at least one of the parties. And it's a common problem that some men will not ask for what they need, sexually. A woman can be good, giving, and game, but she can't be a mind reader. If a man doesn't ask... how can she satisfy?

I say this only because I've run into it in real life. A gal pal is more than willing to help out her boyfriend in other ways if she is not up for sex, but either the boyfriend 1) won't take a constalation prize, no matter how cheerfully given or 2) won't ask period (out of embarrassment or resentment, it's hard to say.)