Right - thanks for pointing that out. The abusive facet of that marriage wasn't related to sex or sexuality. The abuse was verbal (name calling, insults, belittling), emotional ("I wish you'd been more effective in your suicide attempt"), and physical (barricading me in the house, taking away my keys and phone so I couldn't get help, bruising my arm, shaking and shoving me - I have a permanent protective order in place against him). If he'd been a NICER person, loving, I could have accepted, supported, and enjoyed being married to a bisexual man and adjusted to the brave new world I found myself in. I tried to. Toyed with the ideas of polyamory (he didn't want that), and ethical promiscuity (I found some of his actions highly unethical). In the end, I found that there was something better for me (and my children), and embraced it.