Thanks for the clarification. I didn't mean to accuse you or anything negative. I appreciate your frankness. As you stated, you hope to help someone or give some insight. I just want to give the view point from a man who's wife had an affair with another woman.

I guess my wife has had more 'experience' with women than you which has made her journey more difficult. When she married me, she felt like she left all that behind and so did I. I do believe there are more women that are having affairs with other women. Does anyone have any research to confirm this? My personal belief is that your first sexual contact has a great impact on your sexual identity. Hers was with another woman, my was with porn. It takes years to remove the effects but it is well worth it when you have a spouse/partner willing to go through the 'gates of hell' with you. The sex between is better than ever between us. I've learn to slow down and think of her more.

It sounds like you have a 'nice' husband. It's good to know that there are good men out there. We all can be pigs, but there are some pigs that have a good heart! ; ) I'm teaching my sons to respect and be nice to women - not just the 'hot' looking one. Treat every woman with respect and 'agape' love.

Again, blessings to you, yours husband and daughters!