Hmm...I might have been prudent not to mention my own actual infidelity as, in a sense, it's beside the point. I included the information as it seemed relevant in positioning me in the debate. I would never bother defending my choices as those who have objected to it make very valid objections. Whether or not I think monogamy is a justifiable expectation, I did enter into a relationship that contained that expectation and by not fulfilling it I am being dishonest. Still, this is beside the point of the primary debate. My intention was to define what I percieve as a manufactured imabalance of expectation which is both irrational and destructive as well as to set forth some hypothetical reasons for its existence. I wish we would not accept infidelity as aberrant behavior, and fidelity as a natural law of the universe. I think our irrationally exaggerated censure of the behavior actually makes the problem worse and the responses to this thread have done nothing to change that impression.