"And I hate to tell you this, but having state call you union marriage won't get you any of the "human dignity, ..love..devotion ..and protection" you crave. All this is available without the name" marriage" just as it's not guaranteed under the name of "marriage".

If you require state sanction and a name to have human dignity, it's a shame because you've already lost it."

The dignity I speak of is for a man (or woman) to be with his partner while sick, to make health decisions together, to speak to a doctor together, to not have to deal with the stess of being kicked out of a hospital because you did not bring the papers from your attorney as you rushed to the hospital with a partner suffering from a massive heart attack.

It is you how is living without dignity, because it is you who is living without true, unconditional, nonjudgemental love in your heart.

I avoided the money quesiton because these are the issues that can be dealt with legaly in manner that is much more straight forward. I also did not respond to it because it is the least important of my reasons believeing that all people should have the same rights.