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ElleBlue:

Sure it's cruel of him not to allow the "dying woman" to have her fantasies, so he doesn't discourage her from texting him or hanging out with him. What happens when the patient starts saying, "I want to bang you before I die! Please! Just once!" and the bitch lives another 20 years?

Uh - yeah - but she didn't say that. She said "You'll be in my dreams tonight." That could mean a lot of of things. Most pop culture references to being in someones dreams is just that - in dreams. Not possible in reality. If you tell some "in your dreams" - you're telling them - "not going to happen." Don't make me quote Billy Ocean on you.

It's pretty clear that most of the people who think there is something going on here have been cheated on and aren't over it. I get that - but that doesn't mean every guy is a liar or a cheater.

Most importantly - the LW doesn't think her man is cheating. She says so. Please keep your bitterness from poisoning her - it appears that she doesn't need your help. If being a cancer coach matters to him, and it looks like it does - she needs to accept that is who he is. Or conversely - not accept it and give the ring back. People will bond with him - he's going to be a source of strength for them - she needs to make sure she's secure enough in their relationship to deal with that.

I've never been cheated on (that I know of anyway), but if my fiance got a text that said, "you'll be in my dreams tonight", it wouldn't sit well with me. I would surely ask him what he thinks she means by that.

I don't have any bitterness and I don't know where that's coming from. That is a bit of a stretch for you to jump to conclusions that I am bitter. I just believe the man is not using good judgement, by setting up some boundaries.

Lots of women like my guy. He's a film maker and he's around models and actresses almost everyday. He is also VERY nice and very accessible, so they take it as it's okay to oversteps some boundaries. He politely tells them when they are overstepping. He takes precautions so that the females have to contact me or the set director. He uses good judgement and has lots of wisdom, so I trust him implicitely. Why do I trust him? He showed me he is trustworthy.