Oh yeah, I forgot to mention in my top post -

Prudie sided with the male fiance! Since she is often accused of anti-male bias, I found that noteworthy.

Now you're telling me that it's just her anti-snooping bias trumping her anti-male bias? (She also sided with the Republican boyfriend, but that's apparently because of her anti-liberal bias.)

Anyway, I like to take a constitutional view of private snooping - you need some probable cause, and a good reason not to just ask straight out.