JudgeJanie:

I realize I may seem to be all-or-nothing, or lack a sense of proportion. But when you've seen what I have over and over you might understand it better.

I doubt it. That's what I'd call a dismissive response: you haven't added any information, just claimed that you know better than me.

Your experience may lead you to jump to conclusions, but that doesn't make it a valid thing to do.

JudgeJanie:

She HAS attempted to communicate her feelings to her fiance. It's just that he doesn't appear to hear her.

That's one way to interpret it - Prudie illogically chose it as well. Another interpretation is that she is now second-guessing her demand that he cut off contact, and wonders whether her fury may have led her to overreact.

She does not describe the fiance's response to her demand at all. What he "appears" to be doing is based on speculation, not evidence, which is why I suggest she ask him about it.

I further suggest that people should not snoop - it's rude - but they should also not ignore what they find if they do snoop. In this case, she should share her feelings, ask about his, and discuss the best thing to do. In other words, deal with the situation proportionately.