"...but one often never gets to that point if there was not an aesthetic appeal to start."

Well, I don't know about that. There's a few people lurking around here, who I have absolutely no idea what they look like who I would sleep with just because I like their online persona here...not gonna say who, but, there's a few! ;) (Might not want to spend the rest of my life with them, but a roll in the hay would be perfectly doable!)

Conversely, there's a few who I wouldn't sleep with if you paid me a million dollars and they looked like Mel Gibson (*swoon* - yeah, I know he's crazy, but he's still nice to look at!). Again, not gonna say who, but I should think that list would be pretty dang obvious!