I think we are circling the crux of the problem.

To you, the world begins and ends with your own experiences and situation; because you are bounded by what you see and feel you cannot nor will you ever comprehend that the situations of some people are not only significantly worse than yours, but are that way because the government has bias against them, and that this bias is inserted into our government by the 'majority' that you are so proud to be a part of.

And this is the root of the problem.

Because you are not surrounded by gangs of people armed to the teeth, and your imagination is not up to the task of comprehending that situation, you think that walking around with a semi-automatic rifle is a solution to that problem (which anyone who has ever been in that situation would find incredible).

Because you can be happily married, and cannot conceive of living in a world where that right was denied to you, you want 'the states to decide'. Unfortunately, most of the benefits you enjoy as a married person are federal; the states do not nor can t hey confer those rights. If the 'states' were to decide, they would already be forced to recognize marriage between LGBT peoples because of MA and shortly CA.

And because of this limitation of conservative people - this lack of empathy and compassion for the situations of people with whom they have no contact - progressives are forced to take it out of your hands. Conservatives don't have the tools necessary to govern pluralistic societies, because inevitably the human race is trending toward MORE diversity in a global society, not less; and that is an inherently progressive vector. It is also, without a doubt, an unstoppable trend.

What it boils down to is survival and how you think we will best survive the daily revolutions of the future. Trees that bend survive the hurricane; I and those who think like me won't let America be ripped to pieces by a rapidly changing global environment. We wil adapt; with you, or in spite of you.