I'm totally perplexed here. Someone who buys groceries for someone who is strapped for cash has to be evaluated for maliciousness and messed up?

A 14 year old (or whatever age of this young person person) is some sort of victim because she has no car? Mother's can't be themselves? They're just silent chaffuers or else that makes them a bad parent? Who is at the mercy of who in this scenario?

I personally had immigrant parents. I sometimes felt embarassed, but was my mother a bad parent because she spoke with a funny accent? Should I have asked her to shut up when other people were around? Later in life I was embarassed by the idea that I let some ignorant kid make me feel she was less than because we didn't eat cucumber sandwiches.

And on the scale of real teenage problems-sex, drugs, education, paying for college this isn't a problem. This is a normal stage in teen-age development. Teen-age entitlement is a different matter all together. Perhaps as the OP noted this is an exceptional young person, but lets face it, they're not exactly asking where to invest their science fare winnings.