Of Art and Innocence! and Miley Cyrus
by
brerlou
05/03/2008, 4:48 PM
It's art. It's not even original. I'm a heterosexual grandfather, stilI interested in sex, but I can't find anything even mildly erotic about ANY of the photos of that young lady, whom my own grand-daughter so idealizes. The one with the other girl, (naughty) would earn a scolding, and the one with the boyfriend (daring) a talking to, that's all.
The topless one reminds me of a famous painting I saw somewhere. It's NOT erotic! It speaks to the vulnerability of INNOCENCE, of Eve, (not Lolita!), as did the painting. Even the photo with the bra, exposes less flesh than a prom dress, might. (That would earn a disapproving shake of the head). It's playful innocence, not smut, and believe me I've seen and responded to allure. It's NOT there!
I am sickened by people who for some reason want to focus their libido on a child, who's still trying to establish behavioral boundaries. Granted, it is, has always been, a time fraught with danger for the developing teenager who doesn't grasp the dangers, but that's what adults are there for, especially parents, as protectors.
As far as I am concerned, the child didn't do anything so wrong, and this is the kind of attention that twists the developing mind into weird shapes, and creates tensions that they then try to relieve, or confront, with drug taking and wild partying.
As far as the pictures with her father is concerned, again I can't see the big deal. As long as he refrains from touching or ogling any erogenous areas, and vice versa, a girl needs to feel as non-sexual in her father's presence as she did as a girl. I'm slightly more troubled by the Disney picture, because of pedophile collectors. The Coppertone (?) ad (with the little dog pulling at the toddler's underwear?) wouldn't even be considered for publication today. What has changed?
One of the most touching photos forever imprinted on my mind is that of a beautiful, joyful, 16 year old girl, arms spread wide, leaping into her father's arms as her returns from the war in Vietnam. Where's the erotica in a girl in her father's arms? The time for caution arises when either of them feels unease, that is what establishes boundaries.
Even so, I admit to being surprised when a very normal young woman with whom I was intimate, recounted how she showed her father a little swelling on her breast as a teenager, and that he touched it and told her that it didn't feel like the lump in her late mother's breast when she contracted cancer, but that he would take her to a doctor if it was still there two days later. But then I realized how terrified she must have been; to relieve which must have been his only thought, and I could see what a healthy stress-free relationship she had developed with the father who raised her.
I was grateful that she was able to transfer the total confidence she felt in her father's integrity to me, somewhat less deserving. None of this is possible in America today I'm afraid. A healthy loving relationship with a father figure is the best prognosticator of a happy marriage for a young woman. Why would you deny 16 year old Cyrus that? We have become one sick society, and our children, rich and poor, are paying the price!