I can't possibly respond point for point to that long, ostensibly astute analysis (well, i could, but I have a Saturday I want to live and have written enough), except to say that you can run that sort of pathologizing trip on almost every human relationship. The variance in parenting styles and relationships is vast. Really, really vast.

In fact, as a psychotherapist, I can tell you that nearly every human behavior can be similarly pathologized in some context or another. (Read the uproarious article about the laughing baby video on YouTube.) Therapists who are bad therapists do it for a living. It is destructive and silly. (And profitable.) There's not nearly enough data in that article for anyone to do anything except to project -- as you quite frankly do when you say "I am like that boy." Look to strengths. That's where the hope and the help dwell.