i wish the LW had sent in a picture of the dress and a picture of her mother in law to be. BUT, would you wear ANYTHING that let ppl believe that you were of an age and mind that you are not? my mom looks very young for her age in her face. she is starting to get gray hair now and since she wants to be treated like the 50yr old she is, she has since stopped coloring it. if she colors her hair, she looks to be in her mid 30s and more like my SISTER instead of my MOM. her biggest contention with things like this is that she's EARNED her gray hairs, her "mom" label and all sorts of other things that come with being 50. for a 50yr old woman to wear something that a girl in her mid-20s can wear speaks volumes about the 50yr old's state of mind, and it's NOT good. but like i said, she can let it go and everyone will soon realize that her MOTHER IN LAW has the problem, NOT her. it just makes me sad that ppl can't seem to dress and act their age. there are PLENTY of outfits out there that she can wear that will look nice/sexy/whatever, but won't have ppl feeling as if she's going through a mid life crises on the biggest day of her son's and daughter in law's lives together. no one wants to look dumb. or be embarrassed on a big day. so it would behoove us to prepare ourselves. i do hope that this mother in law has a thick skin and ALOT of self confidence to carry this whole thing off. the pictures and/or video from this event will be around for "FOREVER." it's one thing to look back and laugh b/c that was the style of the day. it's another to look back and laugh b/c you made a foolhardy fashion choice in your effort to stand out. heck, you just may not laugh. and that's what i'm trying to avoid here. weddings should be happy memories for ALL.