I was just about to reply to your previous post saying that *I* agreed with *you*!

I have four new step siblings, two of whom do not seem very happy about the remarriage of their father. I hope that I can be more patient with them, since they seem like nice enough people, just not ready to enjoy any relationship with the "steps" yet (I've gotten the cold shoulder on a few occasions). I live overseas, so it's a little easier for me, but it's a hard balancing act, trying to be welcoming and friendly without being overly pushy. Certainly asking their father to intervene in the matter would not help things between us at all, since they'd probably just see it as interfering in their relationship with their dad.