I never said I would have no problem if he cheated. Of course I would be devastated. It might destroy our relationship. Or we might be able to work it out. I can't know what I would do unless it actually happened and I was faced with dealing with the particular circumstances (why, with whom, how, and under what circumstances did he cheat, for example).

I was only saying IF he were to cheat, and NOT tell me about it and I were to find out later through some other means up to and including finding out I have some STD that he gave me as a result of his cheating, that is an automatic dealbreaker.

I have no intention of cheating on my husband, nor have I ever cheated on anyone. He has never cheated on me, but he has the understanding that with me, if he ever does cheat for whatever reason, he had better tell me. If he doesn't, it's over no matter what.

I trust him. I don't expect he ever will cheat on me. But he knows that if he does, I expect to be informed. It's just my personal preference.