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by LaLeonessa

I am female, and was a counselor at an all-boys' camp. This included going on overnight trips with groups of boys of all ages.

I did not molest them. I did not touch them. I was not attracted to any of them.

That is because although I am a straight woman, I am not a pedophile.

Being a pedophile has nothing to do with desire. Nothing to do with sexuality in the gender-directed sense. It has to do with a desire for power, a projection of desire onto helpless children and a warped sense of boundaries. It is often the response to having been abused oneself. People who believe that homosexual men are any more likely than straight men to be pedophiles do not understand the nature of pedophilia. Some pedophiles will identify as straight in their adult sexual life, some as gay, and some will not identify as anything but interested in children.

People who send their children to Boy Scouts don't have any more reason to fear their children being molested than they do when they send their kids to school, to a sports team, or to stay over at a favorite uncle's house. They do, however, risk their children being indoctrinated with the same homophobic b*s that they themselves rationalise as a moral strance.

I have studied the psychology of sexuality, before anyone cares to say that I don't know anything about this. Can find you peer-reviewed sources about the nature of pedophilia if you like.

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