Emmajane:

My husband married a lawyer (me) and quit his job (as an insurance adjuster) to raise our daughter and our autistic son. He and I are still together, but if we divorced, wouldn't he be equally entitled to alimony for all of the years that he has spent taking care of our family instead of building a lucrative career for himself?

Just askin'?

In VA, if you had a marriage of long standing, (usually defined as of 7 years or more) your husband would be entitled to child and spousal support if you two divorced and he remained the primary custodian of your daughter and son. Even if you had no children and he'd worked to help support you through law school, he'd be entitled to some portion of your future earnings as a lawyer because he'd sacrificed during the marriage. We're very progressive in the Old Dominion.