Run, dude, run, as in 'run, Forrest, run'. It seems many women take it for granted that men will bend over backwards adjusting to them after marriage, though they loathe to adjust to men because, as they many times believe they have no requirement to adjust out of their comfort zone. This is part of the reason the divorce rate today is skyrocketing. Marriage today for many men becomes servitude and sitting at the back of the bus, and not having the 'right' to express one's opinion freely and openly and getting respect from one's wife. Women generally demand respect but don't do too well reciprocating these days. Why would any man sign up for a lifetime of nagging, one-up-manship, and walking on 'egg shells'? We can be miserable by ourselves, we don't need a woman to make us so. Asking another women (Dear Prudence) for advice in this area is a questionable idea, in my opinion. Talk to other men, women have NO idea what makes a man tick. Although women generally believe they are experts about men since we are 'so easy to figure out' and only have sex on our minds every 15 seconds. Cocky, untrue, sexist, and absurd. Watching the situation comedy "The King of Queens" is supposed to be funny but is probably accurate insight into how many women view their husbands; we are ninnies, cannot wipe our own noses, and could not survive a day without 'her' guidance. I call it the 'wussification of men in America', without being too harsh. Read the following book, my man, "The Hazards of Being Male, Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege"; author: Herb Golberg, Ph.D. Good luck. Talking with your current partner about your concerns should provide you all the feedback you need to make an informed decision about YOUR future. If she is receptive, willing to compromise, and give a little, great. If not...run, Forrest, run.