Yeeeeeesh. Sounds like a more intense version of my sister in law. I like her, but talking to her I feel like I'm constantly defending myself.

I express my opinion (solicited, as part of conversation, whatever) and she expresses the opposite in a very intense and confrontational manner. It's like an assault. My natural response is to defend myself, and she then proceeds to ATTACK ME FOR DEFENDING MYSELF! She's like "Don't get upset, I'm not arguing with you!" Um... yes you are. Otherwise, WHY ARE YOU YELLING????? WTF???? AAAHH!

The stupidest conversation (fight) we ever had was about wineglasses.

I was forced to pick out crystal & china by my inlaws. I know, I know, don't gripe if people want to buy you things, but really. With all the whining that goes on about bridezillas and entitlement and wanting expensive things, I was given a huge hard time about not wanting expensive things. It was a giant pain in my ass.

Anyway so I said okay, and chose the water glasses and white wine glasses (because they were smaller) from this one pattern. Because 2 glasses takes up less space than 5, wtf do I need champagne flutes for (SERIOUSLY, for WHAT?), the white wine ones were prettier, and my husband will not use them anyway. He refuses. (he has a neurological condition that causes lack of depth perception & other clumsiness, he has broken many glasses and glass things including injuring himself! he drinks out of plastic cups whenever possible, by choice.) I was not rude about it though, I was just like, "Okay, if you insist, I like these and these, that will be fine, thank you so much!"

My SIL started a HUGE FIGHT with me about how you HAVE TO have red and white wine glasses because they are different shapes FOR A REASON. Which I understand they are, the red are larger to give the wine more surface area to "breathe" or something, but since there are white wine glasses of one brand that are just as wide as red wine glasses from a completely different brand (it's not like the circumference is completely standardized) and I'm not that big of a "wine person", does it really matter?

(I have paid attention since, we have red and white wine out of the same glasses at my FIL's ALL THE TIME - they set the table with wine glasses in general, then pour you what kind you want. They don't fuss about with, oh you need a smaller one so your white wine doesnt OVERBREATHE, wtf.)

She was, like, offended that I didn't want both kinds of glasses, refused to listen to the fact that I understand your point, yes they are different shapes for a reason but I STILL DON'T EFFING WANT THEM, you asked me what I want so I am just telling you, why are you yelling at me for doing what you asked?? and when I defended myself she got in my face about how I don't need to defend myself she is not attacking me/arguing with me.

First of all, you most certainly are arguing with me. Otherwise why are you yelling at me for just expressing my opinion?

Second of all, I still don't want the effing red wine glasses.

Third of all if you are so offended by the idea of red wine in "white" glasses, you know, don't come over. I didn't even want the effing crystal in the first place, which should have been a clue to you that while I will be happy to have you over and cook for you, it will not be at the level of a State Dinner, take a chill pill. I'm your SIL not purveyor of a wine bar. And serving someone wine in the glasses you happen to own in your house is not rude. If you want to be a wine snob in your own house, be my guest. So to speak.

Fourth of all, oh my god you are the most exhausting human being on this earth.

Fifth of all, if you want to buy someone a particular thing for your own reasons because it suits your own emotional needs, just F*&^ing buy it. Don't ask their opinion of what they WOULD LIKE if you have NO INTENTION of listening. ARRGH.

Any conversation with her in which my opinion (not equal sign) her opinion I get yelled at /attacked. I have learned to just not discuss things I feel strongly about in her presence. It's not worth it.