For the last several decades our society has been sending a message to men. "You are not necessary. You are not dependable. Women do not need you. Children do not need you. Women can provide financially and emotionally. You are only a complication."

I am not sure how much I actually agree with this particular point so much but I totally agree with your overall message. One of the realities of marriage is that not every day is a dream and there will be days you don't really even want to be around your spouse. There might even be days you are convinced you've married the devil reincarnate. But those days are very few and far between. The trials between committed married adults are more often than not worked out with compromise .... even if it's really hard and unpleasant. The bond of marriage keeps couples together who may easily walk away if that bond was not there.

So, play house all you want to, single gals, but know that your fella may head out at the first sign of struggle instead of hanging in for the long haul .... which is marriage and a life of committment... but don't look for a goverment handout or come crying to me when he leaves you penniless and pregnant.

IF its a case of divorce looming over you I advise to fight like hell to keep your marriage together. For each other and for the child.