Don't you see? Luck had nothing to do with it. There is no such things as sould mates. There is no such thing as happily ever after. I take credit for my marriage being good. I give my husband credit for my marriage being good. We have both worked a lot at it.

Love isn't an adjective. It is a verb. It is an action. It is something you do for someone. Not something you just have. Not just an emotion that you experience. It is a choice you make every single day.

Marriage, like everything else worthwhile takes work. It takes a selflessness that so few people are willing to give. That is why good marriages are the exception rather than the rule. People don't want to put someone else's needs first.