..this is what I have seen over and over again in my 50 years on earth: the girls all chasing and giving it up for the bad boys while nice guys can't get a second look, never mind any action.

The second thing I see, time and time again, is some nice guy married to a woman with kids, but the kids are from a previous hookup (maybe marriage, maybe not) with some bad boy. So now this nice guy is raising some jerk's kids with this girl who has decided a decade into adulthood that maybe one of those nice guys she wouldn't have given the time of day to in her younger years may be just the guy to settle down with and help raise her little bastards (and she should snag one while she still has her looks). I guess this is when we find out nature vs nuture: will the bastards grow up to be nice guys like their erstatz father or bad boys like their biological fathers?

Anthropologists tell us through study after study that ovulating (fertile) women gravitate toward bad boys but toward nice guys in between. That is they want the jerks to father their babies but nice guys to raise them. Anthropologists also tells us that the shape of the penis shows us that the human female is promiscuous, more so than other primates (I won't go into it here but it is easy to find).

If women continue to chase and hook up with the bad boys, the players, the criminals, the irresponsible, then that is who will come to dominate our society - it is a matter of natural selection. In fact, this seems to have already taken place in certain segments of our society.

(cases of rape excepted) it is really all up to the woman; not only if or when she gives it up, who she gives it up to. If she gives it up to a nice guy (a responsible, truthful, compasionate nice guy) then there is really no problem, wedding or no wedding. If she choses a jerk, well, then there is a problem, wedding or no wedding.

I know hundreds of really nice, single guys. You know these guys too - the ones Hollywood teaches us are the dweebs, the nerds, the 40yr old virgins: the kind a woman should be ashamed to be with. Conversely, Hollywood teaches us the jerks, the jocks, the wild ones, the bad boys: these are desirable men women should give it up to, even for just one night.

Is it any wonder we are in the mess that we are in?