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For my mother who passed yesterday
by martingreene
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Visiting His Mother

She doesn’t say anything when he comes in

and says, “Hi, how are you doing? Did you

have lunch yet?” She smiles and nods yes,

but does not speak.

He says “I brought you some nice stuff, I

brought you chocolate, and do you know that we

are coming here for Mother’s Day? We’ll

have broiled salmon, like you used to make.”

Why did he say that? Why talk about what

she used to do? She says nothing, just looks

at him, her son, who is back again, to fill

the medicine boxes, and change the radio

from news to music.

She likes it. She smiles when he puts on

the classical station. Later in the living

room, he will put on a new CD he thinks

she will like. It will be the Segovia Bach,

which will remind her of how he played

guitar, when he still lived in her home,

her son.

On Mother’s day, don’t have the aide come,

not that day. Just us, without the TV on

all day. He hates it that the woman is

always there, but she keeps her clean

and takes her for the walk, and he tells

himself, not the nursing home, not her

in a nursing home, where they keep

them in the wheelchair, and they have to watch

TV all afternoon.

How long will it take, he wonders? But

she smiles when he shows her the pictures

of her great grandchildren. She is happy,

and he comes every week. Again, his father

says he is the happiest man in the world.

At the elevator, he remembers he

forgot to say good bye.

martingreene © 2004

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Re: For my mother who passed yesterday
by Angel
I didn't find today's Pinsky Pick (ironically about a mother) worthy of comment, but your poem is worthy of such.

This is a lovely and honest poem, Martin, and the final two lines are poignant, indeed.

I know you are reading this tomorrow at the service, and I know your mother will hear every word.

With love,

Angel
Re: For my mother who passed yesterday
by Ted Burke

Please accept my deepest condolences, martin, and thank you for sharing this moving, beautifully constructed poem. I've just marked passing of both my brother and one of my closet friends , both in January, and I feel deeply for your loss. Be well and I hope the new year is fruitful and joyous for you.

ted

Re: For my mother who passed yesterday
by martingreene
Thank you both. I will read the poem at the service. What is harder than this? I will care for my dad.
Re: For my mother who passed yesterday
by Lunesta

As you know, that one has always been one of my favorites. But you ask, "What is harder than this?"

I might answer, 'losing a child.'

My heart is with you, dear buddy. As ever, ton shiksami.

At the elevator, he remembers . .
by denny


Saying "good bye" is never easy. Thnks for sharing this with us, Martin - beautifully done.

d;-)

Re:warm thoughts go out your way MG
by misskeenish

sorry to hear of your mother passing much condolence are with you~

peace
by Daysman

bet you won't get through it without choking up....

it took a while for me to stop crying just to reply....

peace

Segovia Bach now sounds bittersweet
by Galatea

martingreene:


Visiting His Mother

She doesn’t say anything when he comes in
and says, “Hi, how are you doing? Did you
have lunch yet?” She smiles and nods yes,
but does not speak.

He says “I brought you some nice stuff, I
brought you chocolate, and do you know that we
are coming here for Mother’s Day? We’ll
have broiled salmon, like you used to make.”
Why did he say that? Why talk about what
she used to do? She says nothing, just looks
at him, her son, who is back again, to fill
the medicine boxes, and change the radio
from news to music.

She likes it. She smiles when he puts on
the classical station. Later in the living
room, he will put on a new CD he thinks
she will like. It will be the Segovia Bach,
which will remind her of how he played
guitar, when he still lived in her home,
her son.

On Mother’s day, don’t have the aide come,
not that day. Just us, without the TV on
all day. He hates it that the woman is
always there, but she keeps her clean
and takes her for the walk, and he tells
himself, not the nursing home, not her
in a nursing home, where they keep
them in the wheelchair, and they have to watch
TV all afternoon.

How long will it take, he wonders? But
she smiles when he shows her the pictures
of her great grandchildren. She is happy,
and he comes every week. Again, his father
says he is the happiest man in the world.

At the elevator, he remembers he
forgot to say good bye.

martingreene © 2004

***********

Dear Martin,

This poem has always been very visual for me. Every word in every line was like visiting your parents at their apartment with you. I've always enjoyed the trip. Now it has evolved into a beautiful tribute for your mother and I find it very fitting that you forgot to say good bye, because there is no good bye...just love forever.

I left my condolences on your other thread <link>

~ Galatea

Re: Segovia Bach now sounds bittersweet
by martingreene
Great thanks to you all. As Hamlet put, "the readiness is all.'" I guess I'm ready.
Re: Segovia Bach now sounds bittersweet
by martingreene
It was hard. Read the poem. My three sons spoke about their beloved Grandma. What was hardest, of course, was lowering of the plain pine box into the pre-dug, by custom, each mourner shovels dirt down onto the box. The sound of it. So, it's after 2 pm, and we are all home at my dads aprartment, with a view of the Statue of Liberty, the Verrazano bridge, the Coney Island parachute tower. Thanks all for every thiing.
fyi, martin, your post got chosen as an
by Lunesta

"Editor's PIck" by the current Editor(s). It's listed on the main Fray page. There should be a checkmark, as well, but I don't see it visually.

Perhaps you will write another fine poem, at some point, about E's funeral today? Glad you're home safely & how is Dad doing today? Talk soon, "L."

Martin, I'm forwarding from w n c
by MaryAnn

Her Slate account is temporarily down, so she asked me via e-mail to post this to you.

Dear Martin,
I'm so sorry you've lost your dear mother. She was blessed by your devotion to her in her old age. You were a good son. May you be at peace. May your peace give you renewed strength to care for your dad.


waltz n capsize

Re: fyi, martin, your post got chosen as an
by martingreene
Say, where do I find this thing about my post. I'm tired and don't know where to look. Thanks. Long afternoon of "shiva," period of mourning will last 7 days.
Re: fyi, martin, your post got chosen as an
by Lunesta
I'll try to explain it another time, pref. on the phone. Am sure you all are beat. Hang in there, and know I am with you, mon ami fidel du longtemps. WR sends his regards, from Jerusalem. As ever, ton shiksami.
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