Any red blooded American male that has dated or been involved with a Caucasian American woman knows why many American men prefer Asian women. It has nothing to do with submission; as this is the only explanation that American women's ego's can deal with and accept. The real truth is their worst enemy. Self absorption is not a desirable trait and Caucasian women seem to believe it is their 'right' to focus on themselves 24/7. That is a hoot.

You need to widen your dating pool to different types of caucasian women.

Agreed. Though, it is difficult to find the 1% that don't fit into the me, me, me 2/47 category.

IMO Asian women are just more beautiful, they age better too.

I've had several white girlfriends in my life and one hispanic but since I hit my mid 20s I've (purely by chance) had 4 Korean girlfriends 2 of which have been very long term (still with one now). 3 of the four where addopted at birth so some of them have been more "Western" than me....maybe I have a thing for addopted women (there is something about the addopted that I can't put my finger on..) None of them were submissive (I hate that), they were (are) all strong American women. I'll tell you one thing though, I'll never go back to white women!

Boy, this is a touchy subject with no good answer. Let's start by saying there is no good reason to limit dating to your own ethnic grouping. The fact that there were social mores that "encouraged" people to do so only underscored the illogic and fear behind such a "taboo". Societies had to employ every trick available to keep people from dating across ethnic lines. So such a discussion is really rooted in the recent past rather than the pleasant realities we are working with today (or better yet our children and younger sibs are working with today). While all those boomers and Gen-X'ers are agonizing about whether to date the cute Thai woman or that Sengalese guy in the next cubicle, the younger ones are just doing it. SHUT UP, watch and learn from them.

That said, there are still some societal pressures that create some inequities. To wit, if white guys can date Asians (more power to them) then white girls will date Asians and black men. Note the odd person out is black women, who feel, with a little justification, that the looser strictures still leave them out as Asian women still meet the old boomer-era guidelines for female/white beauty better than black women do.

The long term answer is that these beauty guidelines are rapidly changing (think Michelle Obama as the new sex symbol). However, in the short-term, a bunch of black women are still left out in the cold. Hey, you white and Asian guys, help the revolution along! Some Friday afternoon, if you see a lone black woman clearing her desk without weekend plans - ask her out, you'll help us all (and have fun too!)

I don't know... it seems that the Asian male is often an odd man out too. In my experience, asian women often prefer white and black men to Asian.

But I think that there's now a trend, ala Kate of Jon and Kate, for white women to date and marry Asian men. No one underestimates Asian men out where I live in Northern Cal...

techresmgt:

Any red blooded American male that has dated or been involved with a Caucasian American woman knows why many American men prefer Asian women. It has nothing to do with submission; as this is the only explanation that American women's ego's can deal with and accept. The real truth is their worst enemy. Self absorption is not a desirable trait and Caucasian women seem to believe it is their 'right' to focus on themselves 24/7. That is a hoot.

Good grief. Did you even see what you're saying? "It's not that Asian women are submissive, it's that Caucasian women aren't." Yikes.

Ian Blokesworth:

Agreed. Though, it is difficult to find the 1% that don't fit into the me, me, me 2/47 category.

I know plenty of them. Sadly, they aren't 20 something or supermodel thin - nor golddiggers who expect men to lavish gifts and attention upon them constantly in return for their hot hot perfection.

Like good men, good women are out there. They just don't always look like the social "ideal," whose virtue is less than skin deep.

These good women shouldn't overlook great relationships with good men that happen to be Fedex drivers, school teachers or cable TV installation specialists.

The Real Slim K:

No one underestimates Asian men out where I live in Northern Cal...

And yet many Asian women yearn for more meat on their bone.

That's certainly true. BTW, I have known women who were very out-front about what 'did it for them' and this included (I am not exaggerating) a man over 5'10" tall, a man with a penis longer than 10" when erect (she was funny about it, but very serious), a black woman who only desired a white man with yellow hair--she had had pictues of Leaf Garret and Peter Frampton on her wall when growing up), and a rich man, etc. Now, some people might argue with some validity that these women were foolishly limiting themselves, but what's wrong with being honest about what 'turns you on'?

Amen to that comment, techresmgt.

I could tell you countless stories of American women trying to get my European fiancée to break up with me on account that they could get her a “new” boyfriend who makes more money. My fiancée could care less about that and she tells them this to their faces. It’s amazing how deceptive and evil American women are. They will stop at nothing to see other’s suffer because they’re so unhappy. We have had so-called “friends” over and they will blatantly try to tell us that I’m no good because I don’t make enough money or a have a nicer home or that I am not attractive enough. We’ve even had some tell me to my face that I am being possessive because she doesn’t go out on the weekends to bars. Fact is my fiancée doesn’t like bars and doesn’t drink and smoke and she doesn’t think it is appropriate for married or attached women to attend bars. Her whole concept is why would she go to a bar when she already has a man? This idea really grinds American women because it goes against their feministic views. She’d rather stay home and cook for me and watch movies and she even gives me backrubs. American women don’t get this concept. American women haven’t figured out that relationships are about sacrifice, not self-centeredness. American women do not have any clue in how to treat men with respect and kindness. I quit dating American women in 2001 and haven't looked back. In fact, I pay attention to what my friends are going through and I remember all to well the HELL that they are living. I don't miss it.

The Real Slim K:

Now, some people might argue with some validity that these women were foolishly limiting themselves, but what's wrong with being honest about what 'turns you on'?

It's dead wrong to withhold respect congenitally due to pencil-dicked geeks.