Re: John Edwards, looking the worst in the face
by
cbishop
07/19/2007, 11:24 PM #
I'm a first time fray poster, but this thread made me want to jump in the conversation...
I have some alternative thoughts on issues that have been brought up regarding John Edwards and his wife.
Regarding Edwards' financial status, I'm very suprised by all the venom directed towards him. Isn't John Edwards' climb to economic success basically a microcosm of what everyone secretly hopes and dreams The American Dream is all about. A family starts off at the bottom of the ladder, climbs into the middle class and, eventually, through hard work and skill, their child climbs to the top. I realize that some people take issue with work done by plaintiff's attorney's but, to the extent that people are claiming that John Edwards was born with a silver spoon in his mouth, that is untrue on its face. Achieving financial success doing something that you are skilled at and care about is nothing to be ashamed of as far as I am concerned.
Regarding John Edwards' "misuse" of his wife in the campaign, I think people are assuming a lot here...almost as if their minds are locked in the 18th century. The implicit assumption seems to be that, of course, everything Elizabeth Edwards does must be somehow directed by her husband and not anything she herself is doing on her own. On the other hand, when she does speak out, everyone takes it as obvious proof that John Edwards can't fight his own fights. So John Edwards is supposedly both a domineering manipulator of his wife and yet too weak to stop her from making him look like "less of a man" at the same time. Perhaps so many people are in disfunctional relationships that this actually sounds plausable.
I personally think that Elizabeth Edwards is likely a very strong woman, her educational and career history combined with her intelligent and forceful communications makes me believe that she's no push-over and no one forces her to do things she doesn't want to do. So I don't buy that she's a pawn of the campaign. I also don't buy that John Edwards is weak because he doesn't keep his wife bottled up. To me it shows the confidence and manliness of a husband if they DON'T feel threatened by a strong woman in their life. Weak men fear allowing their mates to shine because their sense of self-worth is so low. This isn't advanced psychology or anything...the idea of why some men buy exotic sports cars to compensate for their shortcomings is widely known. John Edwards is enough of a man not be threatened by a strong wife and he should be praised, not ridiculed, for this character trait.
Finally, as to the issue of what "Worst" thing John Edwards has faced and whether it is worthy of us not scorning it. I personally don't see it as the single issue(s) of his law career, the death of his son, his wife's illness, or any other thing he has experienced. I think it's larger than that. I think the worst thing, the thing that makes everything else harder, is when you try to do what you believe is right, when you try perservere in times of hardship and uncertainty, when you choose to do what is hard instead of what's easy...and, after doing all this, you constantly see your actions and motivations derided and questioned by a cynical nation that sees anything less than perfection as no more than worthless.
I'm the lone child support attorney in a tiny, out-of-the-way Ohio County. I love what I do and I try to do the right thing in every case I see, but sometimes I make mistakes and sometimes there just are no good answers in a certain situation...and people say some nasty things about me. It goes with the territory and it's part of the job, but sometimes you feel the effect so much negativity when you feel like you are trying to do right. I only have to hear that from small numbers of people on a local level...I can't imagine having to have my dedication to a cause I've spent years of my life on being questioned because I spent to much on a haircut...because, of course, no voters ever actually care what a candidate looks like...not as if any comments have ever been made about Al Gore's weight or anything...
I was a volunteer for the Gore campaign in 2000 and I was a big fan of Bill Clinton in his day, but I'm 100% behind Edwards this time around. Hillary is not Bill, they are different people, it's not 2 for 1...nostogia will not make it otherwise. I think, long term, the economic direction our country will take will mark sucess or failure for our democracy. Right now we're headed back to the 19th century because the far right can't see that the benefits of globalization have been very lopsided. The far left, on the other hand, seems to think that we can just pull back out of free trade all together. I'm more a fan of trying to start raising the floor world-wide so as not to undermine U.S. values on fair labor standards. Granted, no one is really doing this idea now...but John Edwards at least seems to see the problem most clearly. I'd like to see Obama as a VP because I think bridging the freligious divide (i.e. The Right = America should be a christian theocracy, The Left = Religion is for idiots) is a close second on issues that will make or break the republic.
I do think that the Edwards campaign does a poor job at communicating the massage of John and Elizabeth Edwards to regular America. From all the campaign work I've done I've grown to loathe consultants. They are clueless about what real America cares about or thinks and eventually throw candidates off the tracks by convincing them to abandon the values that made them good in nthe first place. It's ridiculous that candidates listen so much to beltway-minded handlers when the elections tend to swing on what people in the Midwest and new Southwest are concerned about. Yes, the war is a huge issue, but here in Ohio people think that the economy is definately worth more air time than it's been getting. Hire some Ohioans Edwards Campaign!!!
In closing, give Edwards a bit of a break, he's a pretty decent guy for a mortal human being and I don't seem him on-record yet as claiming to be the messiah or anything.